Counseling can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never been before. You might have an idea based solely on what you see on TV, such as someone sitting on a couch, hashing out their problems that seem way out in left-field. Like the saying goes, that picture of counseling services only happens in the movies.
We all have issues because we all were raised by imperfect parents who did the best they could. Some of us have experienced traumatic experiences that have shaped our views of the world and how we interact in it as well as our views on others and how we interact with others. Some of these interactions are unhealthy as we’ve developed coping strategies that can hinder our progress in relationships and in other aspects of our lives, such as career. There is no shame in seeking out individual counseling services. There is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself and have the life that you desire.
Professional counseling happens between a certified therapist who tailors the counseling session to you and your needs. A counselor’s job is to discover what is causing your particular behaviors, and, yes, that can bring up memories, actions, or events you are uncomfortable with. However, if you want to grow and change, you have to make the uncomfortable comfortable — at least for as long as it takes you to deal with it.
Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, helps individuals, couples, and families solve their problems and make positive changes in their lives. We understand that people are messy — and that’s OK. It’s our job to help you clean up your mess, so you can see the beautiful you underneath. Below, we’ll dive into reasons why people seek out professional counselors. Contact us today!
COMMON REASONS CLIENTS COME TO COUNSELING
Many of us (many more than you think) suffer some sort of traumatic experience as a child that had made us who we are as adults today. Trauma is different for everyone and impacts people differently. Psychological trauma causes pain, distress, and dysfunction that comes from having lived through an overwhelming threat. A traumatic event is one in which you perceive a threat to your life, body, or sanity and how you react to it. You are overwhelmed by the experience to the point where something snaps mentally. Some examples of traumatic experiences include: surviving a tragedy such as a ship sinking (think Titanic-esque) or a plane crash, seeing something traumatic such as a parent being shot and killed in front of you, or experiencing trauma such as sexual abuse. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is common amongst soldiers who witnessed the horrors of war repeatedly and have feelings they can’t resolve on their own. In individual therapy, you’ll learn how to replace any negative feelings and thought patterns with helpful, productive, and fulfilling emotional alternatives. You’ll learn to reduce the intensity of these emotions from the memories, so you can live more freely. Common therapies employed for psychological trauma include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), brief therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. If you suffer from nightmares, memories that won’t go away, unresolved feelings, or feeling overwhelmed, please call Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, today for your free consultation.
There are many reasons why you might be feeling overwhelmed. One of the biggest is demands on our time. When we are stressed, good (eustress) or bad (distress), we experience physiological, emotional, and cognitive arousal. Endorphins, cortisol, and adrenaline are released in order to help us rise to the challenge of meeting the demands of these stressors to help us manage them. Stress puts us in a constant state of fight-or-flight. If our body has trouble returning to homeostasis (where these released hormones are balanced out), we experience problems such as feeling overwhelmed. Feeling overwhelmed can progress to having intense emotions (anxiety, depression, irritability, anger), irregular thought processes (i.e., worry, rumination, unhelpful thoughts, doubt, helplessness, hopelessness, guilt), and behavior change (lashing out, crying, panic attacks). Evolution Wellness can help with individual therapy that can help you accept events in your life, change your thoughts, and give you coping tools such as breathing exercises and staying in the moment. If you’re in the Wilmington, NC, area, please contact us today to get the help you need from feeling perpetually overwhelmed.
Relationships with others are inherently difficult because we all are messy. We all have our own baggage we carry around with us that can interfere with healthy relationships. This is especially true for couples who spend most of their lives living together. Sometimes words and anger can cause hurt and heartache that can be difficult to overcome. Couples therapy (alternatively known as relationship counseling or marriage counseling) puts you and your partner in a room with a neutral mediator to facilitate honest and open communication with each other. Couples therapy can help participants avoid the victim attitude and gives equal time to those involved. The purpose is to help the couple through couples therapy figure out what the issues are that they are having and to solve them. Family therapy is another area where a family therapist can help. Family therapy seeks to reduce the distress and conflict of the family as a whole and of the members within the family by improving their interactions. Here, patterns of interaction are the focus rather than the individual’s problems. Teen counseling is also an area where Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, can help. Growing up isn’t easy and family counseling can bring calm to your teenager’s hormones — at least in terms of family relationships.
Many people have problems controlling their emotions for a variety of reasons, including feeling overwhelmed, feeling afraid or angry, and feeling out of control of a particular situation or of your life in general. Individual therapy can be powerful for equipping you with the tools you’ll need when faced with overpowering emotions. Furthermore, you could be suffering from a psychological disorder, which limits your ability to control your emotions, such as depression or borderline personality disorder. In this case, a one-on-one counselor can be exactly what you need. If you’ve lost a job or a relationship, or even have sacrificed your health due to uncontrolled emotions, Evolution Wellness can help. One of our compassionate and caring individual therapists can help you become aware of your emotions, drive down to what is causing them, and learning to transform these negative emotions into positive emotions.
Feeling like an ineffective parent.
Feeling inadequate — not good enough — as a parent is quite common, and many feel ashamed or humiliated because of these feelings. A lot of these feelings are caused by our own desire to be perfect, setting unrealistic expectations that we’ll never meet. Some of us parents may set unrealistic parenting goals because as a child we felt inadequate. Furthermore, we feel guilty if we can’t provide for our children financially, emotionally, or physically. Society tells us we can have it all — an amazing career and perfect kids — when we can’t. Our self-esteem suffers and can take a nosedive into depression, or show up in compulsive behaviors such as overspending or overeating. Individual counseling can help. At Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, therapists can help uncover and address any childhood issues that are contributing to your feelings of inadequacy. Clients will learn through individual therapy sessions how to identify and assess their strengths, minimize their weaknesses, and set appropriate expectations for themselves, so they can feel confident and adequate.
The vast majority of us worry. Worry or anxiety is a totally normal feeling. It’s when this worry becomes excessive that a medical disorder may be present or counseling for anxiety may be needed. Anxiety is a symptom of many mental health diagnoses, which if it’s severe, can affect everyday living. Anxiety disorders affect 40 million people in the United States; however, it’s estimated that only about 37 percent of people receive any sort of treatment for anxiety. Furthermore, anxiety can be bad for the health as adrenaline rushes from the brain to prepare for the worst. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), panic attacks, or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are common disorders from excessive anxiety. Feeling overwhelmed is common as well. Counseling for anxiety allows trained therapist to diagnose a disorder if one exists and teach clients healthier, more effective ways to cope. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is highly effective. Clients will learn how their thoughts contribute to anxiety and will learn how to change those thought patterns in counseling for anxiety. Medication is also an option to discuss with your mental health counselor to control anxiety.
Depression can be accompanied by anxiety as well (known as co-occurring disorders). While anxiety typically has people worried about the future, depression has people dwelling on the past a lot. And treating depression is not as easy as just popping a happy pill and saying good-bye. Awareness of the thoughts that are causing your depression can help you recognize negative thought patterns and then visualize or use other mindful practices to break the cycle. Trauma can also trigger depressing thoughts. Meditation and visualization are also useful to break the hold depression can have on people. Severe depression may necessitate medication; however, most therapist caution against using just medication as a cure-all. Medication does not solve the cause of depression; it only treats the symptom of being depressed. Depression affects 16 million Americans and can interfere with life goals, sense of purpose, and finding meaning in life. Often, counseling for depression leads to uncovering unexpected root causes such as relationship issues or conflicts that can be contributing. Furthermore, depression can be caused by imbalances in your body, when it’s thrown out of balance due to hormones or chemical imbalances for example. Evolution Wellness, a clinic in Wilmington, NC, specializes in counseling for depression, such as postpartum depression. Our professional counselors for depression are trained to listen with empathy and expertise and offer guidance to facilitate your personal growth.
Concerns with being overweight.
Many people struggle with their weight, especially as they age since their metabolism slows down and their mobility may be limited in some capacity. However, many are overweight due to overeating, which is often found to be emotional eating. Food can be a way to comfort ourselves and as an outlet for other feelings we may not be able to deal with in a healthy way, such as anger, loneliness, depression, or pain. Food also can serve as protection from the world or from emotions you don’t want to feel. If you suspect you suffer from emotional eating, a professional counselor can help. If you suspect you are overeating because of an underlying emotional issue, the mental health counselors at Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, can help. We can help you identify the underlying issue and then replace your current eating pattern with healthy eating patterns and behaviors. Our professional counselors can help you identify physical hunger from emotional hunger, improve your body image, learn about self-care, and identify cognitive distortions.
Porn or sex addiction.
Sex or porn addiction is a process addiction, meaning you are addicted to a process (in this case, having sex or thinking about sex). It is estimated that between three and six percent of Americans are suffering from this addiction. Because of the stigma attached to sex and porn addiction, often those suffering do not reach out for help. Many feel overwhelming guilt and shame, which can contribute to out-of-control behavior and co-occurring substance abuse as well as a variety of behavioral disorders, such as gambling. The goal of sex addiction treatment is to terminate the compulsion and unhealthy sexual behavior — not lifelong abstinence, but rather an end to compulsive, unhealthy sexual behavior, which can be difficult since the exact causes of sex addiction remain unknown although it is suspected to be a biochemical imbalance in the brain. It will take time to build a rapport with your professional therapist. However, overcoming porn and sex addiction is worth the work involved.
Substance abuse issues.
A substance abuse counselor is a mental health counselor who specializes in treating patients who have a chemical dependency on drugs, painkillers, or alcohol. A substance abuse counselor helps clients overcome dependencies, cope with the stresses of life, and become self-sufficient. Working with the family of the client who is suffering from substance addictions helps repair relationships and helps the family to support their loved one who is undergoing substance abuse treatment. Substance abuse can lead to job loss, medical bills, criminal behavior to supply their habit, and in extreme cases, homelessness. The effects on all involved can be devastating and all too often help is not sought. It’s important for loved ones to step in and offer help to those suffering from substance abuse and help get them the professional counseling services they need. Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, offers a safe haven to establish a therapeutic relationship to begin to heal and recover from substance abuse. We’ll help give the skills and tools you need to recover from substance abuse. Learn to change your thought and behavioral processes with individual counseling. Contact us today!
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, your confidence, your value, and your worth. One of the most common reasons people seek out individual counseling is because they suffer from low self-esteem. Constant comparison to each other and society’s indoctrination of what you should look like, how you should behave, and what you should do as well as having it all together, is a major contributor to low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem often feel shame and doubt themselves. They criticize themselves constantly. Low self-esteem is often a sign of other mental health conditions, such as anxiety and depression. Low self-esteem can often lead to destructive behaviors, such as bullying, overeating, social isolation, and substance abuse. Low self-esteem can sap a person’s joy in life. Individual counseling through Evolution Wellness can help discover the underlying cause of your low self-esteem and begin therapy to end the negative feelings and adverse thought patterns you have about yourself, often through replacing negative thinking with positive thinking. Our professional counselors can teach you the tools you need to change your beliefs, unlearn behaviors, and retrain yourself to better handle difficult situations that cause negative thoughts to creep in. Our individual counseling is effective and convenient. Contact us today!
Lack of motivation.
Many of us get stuck in a rut in our journey in life. We feel beaten up, worn out, and defeated, especially if events in our life aren’t going our way, and we suffer setback after setback. We experience feelings of hopelessness, sadness, anxiety, shame, guilt, or apathy. Motivational problems can be caused by a myriad of different events in our lives: lack of self-confidence, lack of direction, depression, or an unhealthy lifestyle. If you are procrastinating, engaging in self-sabotaging behavior, or feeling worn out in life, Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, can help. Through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), we can help reshape your thinking and behavior patterns to create and harness drive and persistence. Through motivational interviewing (MI), we can address your readiness to make positive changes in your life in order to grow and challenge yourself. Our individual counselors will give you strategies, techniques, and tools to change your level of motivation, understand your obstacles, and help give you direction for your life. Contact us today!
HOW EVOLUTION WELLNESS IS MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN PEOPLE’S LIVES
As human beings, we all need help from one another. We weren’t meant to live in solitude. There is no shame is asking for help. In fact, others enjoy helping. Think about how good you feel when you help someone out. Life would be pretty dull and boring if it were all about you.
Evolution Wellness serves the Wilmington, NC, area with caring, compassionate professional counselors who are here to help you lead your best life possible. It is our deepest desire to listen to you, understand your needs, and equip you with the tools you need to make positive changes in your life. Whether you are seeking individual counseling, marital counseling, or any other type of counseling, we’re here to help.
Through collaborative and solution-focused approach to counseling, we offer action-oriented strategies, so you can leave each counseling session knowing exactly how to enact change throughout the week. Often, you will have homework tasks to complete to implement throughout your week. Moreover, since a lot of struggles are overcoming mental barriers, we’ll give you the tools to help when you are faced with a challenge you need to overcome throughout your week. Changing habits, improving relationships, healing from past traumas, and replacing negative thinking with positive thinking takes time and effort. The professional counselors at Evolution Wellness would be delighted to help you through whatever challenges you are facing. Contact us today for your free consultation and to start your path to overall health and wellness!